Silence flat out fascinates. When practiced and exerted, it yields a range of results (with distinct impact too when giving a speech to a doubtful audience). And earlier this year, practicing meditative silence became a priority. It felt good. It cultivated clarity of mind and inner ease.
That’s what this Silent10 video experiment is about.
On a weekly basis, I practice silent meditation yet honestly I’ve been inconsistent with publishing the video clips. Sometimes others participate too and record themselves being silent for just a few seconds.
Above my friend and business coach Nicolette Pizzitola participates in the project. For 10 seconds, she is quiet and looking head on to the camera.
That’s it.
In some way, this project is expansive and gratifying to me …if for any other reason - it crystalizes beauty.
Just looking at Nicolette, this becomes evident — for she is open, steadfast, and beautiful.
What do you think of this type of experiment?
What are your thoughts of spreading the benefits of silence through video, and making them more shareable online?
Have you ever been told your stage presence was “duller than a box of rocks?”
To clarify: it’s a special level of suck.
A straight-talking mentor gave that feedback years ago after seeing me deliver a speech. At the time my wounded ego just wanted to resign from public audiences altogether.
Studying stage presence and public speaking however became a fascination. And to this day, how to energize stage presence remains the most popular question from colleagues, students, or clients.
They are often bewildered at what to do.
…which is understandable. Causes could be rigid or feeble vocals, over accelerated pacing, anxiety management or a sundry of things. Or sometimes it’s purely a content issue where certain writing vehicles can add momentum to the presentation. But much of the time, the content is solid leaving stage presence as the item to tackle.
Energy, impromptu storytelling, & social apps
A colleague further framed this challenge so well and asked:
“How can I make my energy more consistent from a stage presence point of view?”
Presenting in front of a live audience and feedback community is stellar practice for stage presence – like Toastmasters or Ignite. But in lieu of those defined public scenarios, there’s another option.
An absolute favorite and results-inspiring solution is to practice a lot with social applications.
The goal?
Practice impromptu storytelling and externalizing your voice as often as possible with a few audio and video tools (smart phone apps included). Keep your recordings private if that’s preferred.
But just investing conscious energy in this exercise a few minutes a day can expand energetic capacity when facing live audiences.
Suggestions for social tools:
Audio apps: Audioboo.fmorcinchcast.fm are mobile and web platforms with reliable audio, a simple interface plus the ability to add other types of media to your audio casts. And both have apps for iPhone and Android;
Video and group apps:
Viddy is emerging as the Instagram of video: it enables 15 seconds of recording with visual filters. You talk about energizing your mind and vocabulary in a hurry! It’s a compelling tool with some major growth since its recent launch. And CloudTalk is a fascinating platform with both iPhone and Android apps – allowing you to share video, audio, text to public users or to a private group (this storytelling app, Blurb, looks fascinating but I’ve yet to toy with it.).
Perfection vs progress
When it comes to upping stage energy, nothing replaces the chance to practice in front of live audiences from a defined stage space. Yet waiting for perfect circumstances inhibits ultimate progress; so I vote for creating a stage-like dynamic with social tools like these. What do you think?!
Becoming your own best audience
Whether recording via audio or video, these tools (and you) become your own reliable audience. And the chance to practice impromptu storytelling or simply get your voice out of your head is an energetic exercise. From my personal work and through observing others too, this practice has fostered more fluid and energized presence from the stage.
Are you game to try these exercises?
What other ideas have helped you galvanize your own stage presence?
Sometimes breaking down a huge problem to solve can be daunting, especially if potential ideas to fix it are left unsaid. When everything stays swirling up in the brain – vs discussed out loud – I find a clear roadmap to a solution can be a tough, obscure process. You know that type of mental crossroads?
But Lauren Meling spoke her mind and shared a small story with big impact. It surprised her.
She’s online marketing manager at USA for UNHCR.
She was recently, pleasantly surprised about what small steps could be taken to make large degrees of impact in helping Thailand refugees. The Blue Key campaign helps to bring this awareness and resources to refugees worldwide; being involved with this program continues to educate me in unexpected ways.
Her encouragement, and what she observed directly in Thailand, unfolds in this brief conversation (video = 2 minutes).
Lauren along with her team ‘live their talk.’
Not to be too cheesy but Lauren confronts tough work and seeks to absolve dangerous situations facing refugees around the globe. Her ability to share this story out-loud-and-head-on made an imprint on my thinking.
A story that grapples with these questions plus examples unfold in the quickie video above (which is also apart of Tinu Abayomi-Paul’s video challenge project – which you can participate in too).
As for key messaging for your presentations, what helps you formulate your primary point for your speech content? Do you like that part of preparation? What are examples that you’d enjoy sharing?
Discerning and shaping key messages can be a welcome but distinct challenge for me — so please, your ideas are welcome anytime in the comments(!)
The good creative folks over at Matrix Group International just launched a new video series called The Matrix Minute. They are neat friends and strong supporters of the social tech community.
From her purple office and purple sofa – Joanna Pineda asked to talk-shop about videoblogging and if I’d share ideas on how to get started with online video.
Sounds like fun (and it was!).
Videoblogging and the value of impromptu speech
Impromptu conversations via video or audio are such fantastic practice forums for speaking in public — let alone great vehicles for sharing stories with your core communities.
Thanks Joanna and Matrix Group for the time (and congrats again on the Matrix Minute series).
What are your favorite tips for videoblogging or impromptu speaking in general, like giving a toast or a statement of congratulations at formal events?
Her prized, numero uno, #1 favorite speaking tip is…:
It’s been a tremendous week here at Blogworld Expo East. And this morning’s workshop was fantastically interactive, co-presented with @AlizaSherman about empowering women as public speakers. The attendees for our Speak Up workshop were so motivating; and people showed determination and progress on their speech topic ideas throughout the session. It’s been a great day.
Words from a witch
In the spirit of finding and asserting our voice as speakers, Nathalie Lussier talked shop about her favorite speaking tip. She presents often and really enjoys the dynamic.
It was energizing to talk with her from Blogworld’s expo floor
- and she blogs regularly at The Raw Foods Witch on lots of healthy stuff.
Nathalie’s #1 tip revealed in this fun, speedy talk:
DISCLAIMER to readers: Darth Vader was not harmed in this recording.
She just gave a great speech on the benefits and stress from having so many available choices.
She has resolve, success, and a great depth of reflection.
She’s got one heck of a sense of humor, is a Women Grow Business blogger — and she’s a clear winner too.
This ’she’ is Ann Bevans, a business owner and prize winner of this year’s case study competition for the Hot Mommas Project.
The Hot Mommas Project is an online mentorship library for women and girls, comprised of case studies accessible for free. People from across the globe submit case studies reflecting their life experience about entrepreneurship and different professional industries.
What challenges did they face?
What decisions or fears or obstacles helped to crystalize their success?
These questions are often framed and answered in the most personal and triumphant ways in these case studies.
Ann’s case study won top honors this year, revealing her sense of purpose for her business and resolve to look at specific choices.
In this video talk: Darth Vader talks shop.
And Ann shares more on what compelled her to write her case study. Her potent acceptance speech was a hot topic too, looking at the trials of choice in & beyond business — all this from the Hot Momma’s Awards Ceremony earlier this week.
Today marks the second Friday for the #Silent10 video project.
I’m oddly happy and challenged by the whole idea. This has been an intriguing and soothing experience.
Funny thing & strange reflections
A friend walked in during this recording (just above). I mouthed silently to her that it was “all good.” In the spirit of just accepting the situation as is, I kept the camera on and did not edit. It’s strange.
If this was a storytelling or instructional video, by golly I’d edit that silent mouthing part out. But I’m fascinated by giving this video-as-a-silent-meditative-exercise a real go. So it seemed ok to let it just be.
What do you think?
Commuting home yesterday, I ran into author & Digital Sisterhood founder Ananda Leeke. Here she participates in the #Silent10 project:
Are you game to participate?
-Love to learn your comments or certainly see/experience your own 10 second #Silent10 clip anytime.
A colleague recently shared her pre-game angst for giving a product demonstration. She felt less confident for this particular demo, especially when envisioning questions from attendees that could favor her competition vs her product.
Here are (3) tips that helped her increase her sense of ease, confidence, and control:
1. Set the tone and establish the dynamic early on.
She opened her remarks by overtly declaring her demo a full-on conversation zone; she distinctly invited curiosity about her work (and what they, the attendees, were looking for). Leading the tone in this way was a simple, empowering move. Cultivating this type of conversational environment head-on made my colleague feel like she was guiding the exchange (vs hiding nervously from potential questions).
2. Establish a clear, big-picture message and use that as a mental home base.
The nature of our products and services can be so carved out in our minds that a vivid, concise way to describe its meaning can get obscured. Before the demo, clearly define and articulate a key message that captures the value of your product. Linking mini stories to the key message can help make it all the more humanized, personal, and distinct.
As example: “My #1 interest is providing fantastic, fashionable footware that’s reasonably priced. Faculty at my alma mater are my best customers for this reason….”
3. Acknowledge competitor features, briefly, if prospects bring them up; but promptly re-direct attention to your product’s benefit.
It can be natural to defensively respond when people affirm competition in the face of your product. To diffuse your own anxiety and cultivate a sense of confidence, prepare ways beforehand to gracefully acknowledge competitor features should they come up i.e. “Yes Sallie’s Lime Cupcakes are tasty…” And practice how to immediately re-focus attention on your product’s distinction i.e. “I’ve found the bulk of my customers may try fruit cupcakes once or twice in the short term. But my customer community as a whole craves chocolate and vanilla. And we provide that in 85 creative recipes.”
I’m now craving a cupcake (vanilla, not lime) in the most urgent way(!)
Before signing off though, have you ever experienced anxiety before giving a product demo? What were ways you prepared when anticipating criticism from attendees?
Sometimes breaking down a huge problem to solve can be daunting, especially if potential ideas to fix it are left unsaid. When everything stays swirling up in the brain – vs discussed out loud – I find a clear roadmap to a solution can be a tough, obscure process. You know that type of mental crossroads?
