Have you ever had that “hmmm” moment or moments where the idea of giving your TED talk plays out in your mind?
During the TED Full Spectrum live conference on Wednesday, 2/29th, many folks in the audience will ponder just that (me too!). People will gather to watch the Full Spectrum event via live stream in Washington, DC (thanks to the kind folks at TEDxPotomac). And I can’t wait for the tremendous exchange, conversation, and ideas.
A nudge toward self-reflection
Is some part of you waiting for a particular nudge or external deadline before preparing your TED-calibre story (sometimes that’s a productive block in my work or what clients confront too)? Which begs the question: what really keeps us from recognizing and shaping our prized ideas – and share with others whether it’s a TED community or other engaged, valued listener?
What really prevents us from preparing our ideas beautifully, honestly, and clearly for future yet-to-be named audiences?
A word about time & the talk of your lifetime:
From my TED/TEDx collaborations so far, a TED-calibre talk takes 30 to 200 hours of prep depending on the speaker’s starting point of clarity and available stage time for the talk itself.
So I vote we start.
No matter what stage or type of audience you envision for this ‘talk of your lifetime,’ engaging your own preparation on your own time – right now without facing an immediate deadline – can be incredibly crystalizing. That type of initiative can bionically empower your ideas and self-expression — stimulating greater readiness for serving future audiences.
Clarity puts the mind in a position of presence and ownership — two pillar qualities for guiding an audience through an irreplaceable experience.
So let’s start our own guerrilla prep work right now.
Are you in for 30 minutes?
The primary purpose at this point is to assert an idea and start.
As in the mission here is to make tangible progress on your TED “idea worth spreading” — plus ultimately get your TED / TEDx talk in draft form.
These (4) steps will guide our exercise with an emphasis on asserting perspective and escaping fear of imperfection.
- 1. Set the timer for 8 minutes.
Then start putting notes on paper (please put electronics in another room; the pen and paper keep the mind in a stronger meditative state). Just start writing in response to this consideration: consider what motivates you – and how that motivation is teachable. And as it helps your brainstorming effort, let yourself consider these brainstorms in different types of context and impact: professional, personal, spiritual, analytical, and creative.
Then write down a one-sentence assertion about a belief which you hold true. If it helps, add the phrase “I believe” before your assertion – with an example as: “I believe public speaking is a timeless community builder.”
Please remember: encourage selection (and de-selection).
Perfection is not the end game. What is? getting on the board with your ideas. If you have more than one assertion (again just one sentence in length), certainly write them down. Then choose one to champion for the sake of this draft exercise and carving out your TED “idea worth spreading.”
- 2. Set the timer for another 8 minutes.
Now it’s time to think in story-based scenes. Ask yourself: what moments have shaped your one TED idea? What risk or discipline, what huge or subtle decision, what unforeseen experience, what trajectory, what observations, what research, what pivotal conversations, what gift, what anecdotes, what teachings – what is “the what” which influenced the teachable truth in your asserted idea? Reflect quickly but with permission. Write.
Then select (3) to (5) of these story-based scenes.
Please remember: storytelling relationships
View stories/scenes as the audience’s potential road map to understanding your asserted idea. Each story should exemplify and relate to your idea in some way. So your favorite memory of riding a sweet Shetland pony in the 5th grade should relate to your idea. If not, gently coach yourself to let it go. The Shetland pony will only distract your audience from your idea’s impact and merit.
Creating structural integrity with relatable content is key here.
As you continue beyond this exercise in the days ahead, there will be ample chances to further flesh out, critique, and change your course as needed. For now though, the goal is to start thinking in scenic terms and to build a story archive from which to draw from. Build, build, build this archive for your storytelling power. Storytelling is rich, compatible food for the human mind. Done with keen attention by the storyteller, it can give the audience a chance to absorb, engage, and punctuate thought right along with the speaker every step of the way.
- 3. Set the timer for the next 8 minutes.
- 4. Set the timer for the final 6 minutes
Only criteria: get a first draft down in 30 minutes by continually producing and resisting self-criticism in this timeframe.
Do you have a one-sentence, teachable assertion written down now about what motivates you? Great. That’s your potential TED talk’s main idea. That’s the journey you’re taking a future audience on. Nice!
Revisit the stories/scenes you just selected. Now consider them in the context of useful, teachable conflict. As in, do one or a few stories reflect difficulty in some way? Is challenge, risk, pain, or potential disappointment revealed or acknowledged? Or simply, is consequence of what could happen if your idea is rejected apart of your perspective?
Be as honest and willing as possible to disclose a story that is difficult to tell.
Please note: The goal is not to be falsely dramatic or emotionally manipulative. At the same time, framing a core idea and point of view with 100% happiness or sense of perfection can disengage. It can compel the audience toward boredom or mistrust.
If conflict or some layer of contrast can be shared with your audience — it can be an irreplaceable trust builder and clarifying agent for your TED-calibre idea.
Please remember: honesty and clarity
Always be asking yourself with these stories/scenes: are they shaping enough context for my idea to be understood?
Check-in: a word about inspiration
It may be temping to refer to favorite TED talks to observe their voice, their perspective or creativity. Resist this. This exercise is the chance for you (us!) to see our truest conviction clearly even when an audience does not exist. This process must be authentically owned by our own desire to express and to achieve clarity of expression. Lean on your own inner reservoir of clarity, drive, and desire to understand (and to be understood).
Consider your main idea, the scenic stories, and the compounding impact of what they mean. How do they uniquely convey meaning literally? Does the structural framework create a sense of journey? Does the structural integrity frame or undermine your intended meaning? How can your ideas create a sense of arrival for your audience?
Write down a vision of impact for your audience. Resonate’s Nancy Duarte (Holy Smokes an incredible resource and philosophy) calls this ‘the new bliss.’ As in how do you envision the ideal result, the ideal benefit, the ideal hope, the ideal outcome of your adopted idea and supportive material?
A kinder, more empathetic world? An accessible education for every human being? A sustainable standard of living for the disenfranchised? Violence replaced by social entrepreneurship?
Please remember: warts are apart of creativity.
Throughout this creative digging, possibly inner voices may crop up i.e. “This is dumb, a waste of time, I’m no Al Gore on TED’s stage, who do I think I am, I hate this rough draft, where is my IQ?!”
Please consider those thoughts as mental warts — and a useful indicator.
They indicate a sense of ownership.
They exist as a knee-jerk reaction to imperfection or a lack of clarity or both. Roll with it and continue. These creative warts indicate a sense of ownership for being clear. It’s a rough gig, the clarity business (…neat phrase from Content Rules). But that’s the business we are in when it comes to recognizing, asserting, and carving out ideas. It’s not a surface exercise.
Let us dig deep and true.
Check-in: Our audiences owe us nothing.
Keep going with your reflections, uniqueness, and process — empathizing with the audience’s experience 150% of the time.
Always be asking: Is there enough context in my talk to frame my conviction and deliver meaning?
Are you delivering as unconditionally as possible? Or do you really, really want the audience to think you are smart and inspirational and brilliant and the new Steve Jobs?
Our audiences owe us nothing.
I invite you to consider:
We as speakers are here to serve audiences with our clearest, most original, most resonant, most integrity-rich best.
I invite us to share ideas in this light, for an unconditional offering of a cherished idea is a beautiful thing.
Congrats for diving in and realizing the talk of your lifetime (I’ll dive in too!).
Really, really exciting.
What would you add to get your ideas off the ground, and into talk-of-a-lifetime shape?
More resources and perspective:
- TED’s 10 Commandments for speakers;
- Anti-TED sentiment in light of our social era;
- How to prepare a TED or Ignite talk;
- Why to love TED talks;
- Audition for TED2013.
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“Lightbulb arrow” by Vistavision, Creative Commons
It’s been an ongoing meditative exercise since giving the TEDx talk last Tuesday…pondering questions like:
What worked while preparing for this TEDx talk?
…with a more vulnerable follow-up question: what was excruciatingly difficult to prepare (and why?!)?
There was a lot of pure nuts-n-bolts process to this speech; at the same time – it was one of the most fulfilling yet absolutely gut wrenchingly difficult speeches to deliver. Heck, not just deliver but to cull out.
For starters, there was a huge mental wrestling with the TED brand plus internal feuds with my ego; there were so many re-writes that it seemed moving to Alaska to instead cut wood for a living would be the best career move (…vs plugging along in what seemed a sea of obscurity in discerning a story arc); there were many brainstorms with speech coaches; there were unexpected decisions with slide decks.
Some parts of this were expected but so many aspects of preparation I did not foresee.
And it all comes down to an unforeseen mind game where my perceptions of storytelling came head-to-head with the daunting TED brand.
It was all humbling and energizing all at once. Not to mention that through the whole experience, the patience of my husband was crystalized in renewed vibrance.
The recesses of my brain are sorting out core details to this strange, satisfying, wrestle-of-a-process. And I look forward to conveying more (and learning from your thoughts) in the next week.
In the meantime, what was your favorite TEDTalk from TEDWomen?
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TEDx communities across the globe will convene independent programs in honor of TED’s first TEDWomen Conference (which will be held next week in Washington, DC); the speaker slate is dynamo to say the least.
Do you plan to attend DC’s event or a live streamed program of motivating discussions and ideas worth spreading?
A TEDx story and how the social web inspired introductions:
During this year’s WomenWhoTech Telesummit, I had the pleasure of meeting Janie Hermann on Twitter; Janie founded the TEDxPrincetonLibrary series and expressed interest in celebrating TEDWomen through a locally hosted program. She and her team then put ideas in motion!
I can’t wait to participate in a day of robust conversation at TEDxPrincetonLibrary’s event and present about the night’s timely theme: women and technology in the age of conversation.
The beautiful Princeton Library will host (where TEDWomen will be live streamed and discussed throughout December 7th and 8th).
This particular TEDx event (or @TEDxPrincetonPL on Twitter) will also include a lightning speaker round on 12/7th, showcasing tremendous business leaders Holly Landau, Katie DeVito, Hilary Morris, and Melissa Klepacki. Each will share how they cultivate socially aware brands.
…there’s more that night: the smooth, lyrical voice of Sara Donner will perform too.
Want to join us? Please do!
RSVP right here for a super meeting of the minds and enjoy the TEDWomen Conference via live stream. Participate in (and energize) discussions addressing how women and girls are reshaping the future. All this is complimentary to the public at TEDxPrincetonLibrary so please RSVP while seats last (there’s a small fee for dinner, should your appetite get inspired too).
If you had 18 minutes, what would be your one big idea to share?
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Last Friday, I had the wonderful pleasure meeting University of Maryland students in two communications classes Comm107-1701 and Comm107-0801. Founder of DC’s Social Media Club-Breakfast chapter, PR guru, and U of Maryland professor Andi Narvaez launched a speaker series for her communications students. And a few days ago, I had the chance to share ideas about persuasive public speaking and public conversations in general with her students. Thanks to Andi and both classes for a great morning!
We talked about different speech devices used in persuasive presentation – and which ones they found most convincing. Some leaned toward logical reasoning while others responded strongly to perspectives delivered with strong conviction.
What an angry client taught years ago
I shared an experience with a client from a zillion years ago when first starting in sales (corporate sales at Borders Books). At the time, I messed up a client’s order (she happened to speak Italian too) and visited her office to deliver some but not all of the order. She then expressed a special type of rage for the order being incomplete — that included unrecognizable Italian words! As she expressed her huge discontent, her staff and the company president casually gathered around, becoming an unintended audience of this discussion. After an extended exchange that day, which largely involved me listening to her and confronting my guilt, the outstanding book order arrived the day after (& before the competition was able to produce…); the client then permitted my delivery of her product, with discussions of ongoing business to follow. Whew.
I mentioned to the U of MD classes that I then returned to the office, relieved(!), and invited a colleague to celebrate.
She preferred however a more thorough analysis on what happened with that client, suggesting: “We need to assess your conversation for persuasive elements.”
The (4) questions my colleague asked have since stuck – really helping my line of thinking toward persuasive conversations in and beyond a stage dynamic:
- 1. What point of view did you represent?
- 2. What was the audience’s (customer’s) point of view – and did it have merit?
- 3. What was at stake in the conversation, both from a best case/worst case vantage point?
- 4. How did your emotional resolve create a persuasive advantage or disadvantage?
There were many but the main one was to be the client’s trusted bookseller, even after my error. It helped to focus on this primary point of view and maintain empathy/respect for the client.
It absolutely had merit and it warranted respect (and humility) on my part.
Worst case – a relationship would be lost with this client’s negative perception influencing her colleagues who also were potential clients. Best case – There was an opportunity to re-build trust, serve the client in future needs, and ideally those of her staff who also had budgets.
I really appreciated my colleague asking all of these questions but most of all this one. She helped to crystalize how emotions impacted the possibility of renewed trust and recovered common ground. Extending honest empathy vs being defensive with the client proved critical.
These questions set the stage for the value of persuasive speech and persuasive conversation in general with the students. I loved it and we talked more on engaging in public conversations via social media too — with more recaps from Quinn Kelley in 1701 and Brandon Isaac from 0801.
I had a motivating, super time.
And here are some favorite TED videos with incredibly effective persuasion (as requested from Professor Andi):
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor: for sharing a powerful, honest personal story
Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala: for her use of data in parallel to her enriching personal experience
Benjamin Zander: for his diverse ways of engaging the audience and relating through his passion
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